Dating & Relationship

Has your love life been heading southward for awhile now? Aren’t sure why you are attracting all the wrong types of people? Are you just sick of the dating scene and are convinced there has to be something wrong with you?

If in the back of you’re mind you answered yes to all or any of these and just aren’t feeling it when it comes to love and dating anymore, don’t feel upset. There are thousands of people out in the world that are going through the exact same situation as you. And even some are going through even worse situations.

Here are three examples of people and their problems with love or relationships. Once you see their quirks and hang-ups, hopefully you can learn and will be in a better place about your situation.

Subject 1: Desperate Love

Subject 1 is a very lovely person. They are super nice and would do anything for any of their friends. Works hard at their job and maybe has recently purchased a house. On the outside they seem to be doing fine. But on the inside, well that is a different story. Subject 1 is so desperate to find love that they scare off any chance of it happening. Any new person that they meet, Subject 1 instantly falls for them. Now, maybe they aren’t openly soliciting them for sex, but they are overly into these people and are obvious about it. They are desperate for their friends to fix them up to anybody that they might know. And have on several occasions, gotten a bit too drunk and out of hand and confessed their feelings and totally ruined any chance that they might have had.

Subject 1 is not a rare breed. Now sure, you are saying, I never lose my cool and get too drunk and tell some one that I am into them, and in that point you may be correct. But are you that type of person who is desperate to find someone? Are you willing to date just about anyone? This is Subject 1’s (and maybe you’re) biggest problem. You set yourself up to fail because you are so ready to fall in love. Falling in love is great and hopefully will happen to Subject 1, but won’t happen to Subject 1 until they are aware that it is really obvious to the opposite sex that they are really looking. People aren’t interested in getting into relationships when the other person is so desperate to get into one that it didn’t matter if they were involved.

Advice for Subject 1: First off (and this is easier said then done) stop looking. You need to focus on yourself and learn to be happy by yourself. Now, maybe you are getting older and are worried that life is passing you by, but slow down and enjoy those regular moments. They minute you are happy with your life, will be the minute other people are able to see it. And once people around are able to see how happy you are, the minute you will look better and better to the single ones around you.

Subject 2: Love Done

Subject 2 is a nice person. They have their close group of friends and given the chance are the life of the party. They get up, go to work and do it all the next day. They are reasonable successful and seem to be doing fine when you pass them on the street. But appearances are deceiving. Subject 2 has never been great around the opposite sex. Maybe they are shy or wined-up sounding dumb when talking to them. And because of they flashes of awkwardness, Subject 2 has thrown in the towel and has given up trying to find anyone. They make up excuses for not trying to meet people by saying that they don’t know anyone. They say that they can’t meet the right people at clubs or bars. And when you finally get them out, they make sure to be the first person to call it a night and head home.

Subject 2 is also out there. Now, you are probably saying “It is hard to meet people!” and for that statement you would be correct. But Subject 2 (and all the others) just because it is hard to meet people, does not make it impossible. This is Subject 2’s biggest issue. Subject 2 is in a rut and has convinced themselves that no matter what they do, they are going to be single, so they don’t try anything.

Advice for Subject 2: Now (once again this is easier said then done) Subject 2 needs to get back into the game. Subject 2 needs to understand that when you put yourself out there something will happen. Now, maybe it will take some time, but something will happen. If you are busy sitting in your house and never going out, you are missing out on what could happen, and even if it takes some time, you should enjoy the time you are trying.

Subject 3: Dating Complainer

Subject 3 says and does all the right things. They are living comfortably and hang out with their friends and family whenever they are able. They date and seem to have a good time when they are doing it, but hold up a second, they have their problems as well. For as much as Subject 3 dates, they always seem to be complaining about their love life. They meet people, but not the right people. They like people, but never fall in love with people. What’s going on?

Subject 3 has a few things going on and there are a few possible reasons for it.

Torch Holder:

First, maybe Subject 3 is still holding a torch for someone in their past. They say that they are over them, but then meet great people and find faults about them no matter what. If this is the case, Subject 3 needs to accept the fact that they still have feelings for someone else, before they are out wasting time with somebody new.

Perfect Searcher:

Second, maybe Subject 3 has a picture in their head of who they are supposed to be with, and if the people they don’t date match perfectly to that conceived idea, they pass on by. We all can imagine the perfect guy or girl for ourselves, and have certain things that they need to have to attract us to them. That’s normal and there isn’t anything unhealthy about this. The unhealthy part is when you convince yourself that only perfection will do and when they aren’t perfect you want nothing to do with them. Perfect is an unreal concept when it comes to love. No one is perfect. But lots of people are close enough for you to start a relationship with them to see if they might be better than what you thought.

Here are the three examples that you can learn from. Maybe you are very similar to what is presented here. Maybe you are not. But either way, hear what has been presented, so that on your road to love you can avoid crashing your car into the many pot-holes that are out there.