Dating & Relationship

So you have been dating that special guy or girl for awhile now, and then, the unthinkable happened. Either you or they are moving to another city or state! What should you do? Should you try to keep the relationship going from afar? Or should you just call it quits before either of you get hurt?

If you haven’t been dating this person very long or haven’t been that serious, you might want to cut your loses now before the real work happens. Long distant relationships are hard work, but if you are committed and really care for your partner, then there is no reason why you shouldn’t keep the love of your life in your life. Here are a few tips and ideas that will help you keep the relationship going even if you are thousands of miles apart.

Again, if you haven’t been dating this person for a very long time or haven’t been involve or committed in a long distance relationship in the past cut your end early!!!

Tip 1: Time Management

Whatever you or your partner moves and whatever new experiences come up, try to make sure to devote enough time to the relationship. Keep them high on your priority and set aside time everyday or every two days that you can devote to a phone conversation, instant messaging or email. You need both of you to still feel connect to each others lives. Talk about your day. Don’t leave out the minor details that you might with someone you see all the time. Your partner will appreciate the information and will feel less like they are missing things in your life.

Tip 2: Trips

And this might go without saying, but the both of you need to plan on visiting each other as much as possible and not only for holidays. Now, personally speaking here, this is part where most cut it lose or contemplate on doing so! Yes, it can become expensive, but the key word here is ‘plan’, and ‘plan’ ahead. Make specific dates that the both of you can look forward too. Don’t just leave it up in the air. Set a date and stick to it.

Also, don’t just have one person always doing the visiting. This can create allot of resentment and if you want the relationship to stay strong, you need to share the travel load. Still interested in keep cross country relationship, well just keep on reading.

Tip 3: The Little Things.

All the little things you used to do when you saw each other all the time, the surprise gifts, the special dates, the same restaurant you went to, all of these things are going to be missed. So you or your partner needs to remind you of the little things that made your relationship great from the beginning. Maybe a simple present for no reason, maybe a sweet message left on voicemail when the phone owner is clearly at work, maybe a special local food that you both used to love getting, anything that is small and easy that will constantly remind the two of you of what you share. Don’t just let your niceness kick in when you are visiting. Make a point to do nice things for your partner every so often, just because you can. This may sound sappy to the guys, but this is the hard work, that if you want this relationship to work, you will need to participate in.

Tip 4: The Next Step

How long will the length of stay be? Is this a temporary distance, that the both of you just need to be patient about? Or does this look permanent? Either way, both you need to be honest about it. If it’s only for a limited amount of time, then you both just need to relax and wait for when you can be together again. If it’s more permanent, you need to discuss what that means. If you two want to stay together, then you need to discuss what you two could do to fix the distance. Maybe whoever didn’t move should think about moving to live near or with the other. But whoever moved needs to participate as well. Don’t just leave it up to your partner. If you want them with you, you need to tell them, and help them find a place or scout out job opportunities in their field.

Tip 5: It’s all about the Love

This is possibly the easiest step. If you want the relationship to work and you truly love your partner, then honestly all you need to do is love them. You must respect their decisions, trust them in what they do and remember what brought the two of you together. Long distance relationships are not impossible. You both need to be invested in what is best for the both of you. If you are both on board, then there really shouldn’t be any problems.