First off, everyone has felt rejection in one way or another, personally I felt rejected about three weeks ago. And if someone is saying that they have never felt any rejection, then there is a good chance that they have lived in a cave in Siberia or possible in the back of toilet, cut off from interaction between any other living thing for a majority of their naturally life. That being said, rejection is a part of life, and yes I’ve been rejected too. Sure rejection definitely has levels. Maybe a teacher in elementary school really didn’t think your finger-painting masterpiece was as fantastic as you did. Rejection. Perhaps you weren’t the absolutely first person picked for that recess game of tag. Rejection. And the top level of rejection, maybe a guy or a girl just wasn’t in to you. Major, no-fun rejection. This is the level or form that most people consider rejection and most people (except for that one Siberian cave-dweller) have felt emotional rejection at least one time in their life.
This type of rejection stings the most. You can probably understand why in the football game, why the one team Captain picked Peyton Manning to play quarterback over you. You are a smart person; you know what you are good at and also understand where your limitations lie. But when it comes to love, we all can’t understand why one person wouldn’t want to get with us. This is especially hard when you really have feelings for that certain person. You can imagine how good you two would be and see all of the benefits of being a couple would bring both of you. But when that other person can’t see it at all, this is the toughest pill to swallow.
So once we all except that rejection is bound to rear its ugly head sooner than later, we can prepare ourselves for the eventuality.
The first thing that everybody needs to know about rejection is generally it very often has nothing to do with you. We all most remember that the people around us do not always think like us. They may be into something entirely different than you. So, to use a horrible cliché line, its really not you its them.
Also, another thing that needs to be in the back of your head, you must understand that things may be happening in this other person’s life that cause them to not be thinking about love in the slightest. School, work, their family, previous relationships, there are just about a zillion possible reasons why a certain person may not be in a good place to think about dating you. So before your go ask out the hot little coed to the keg party, make sure that her father isn’t a recovering alcoholic, because she may like you, but want nothing to do with that type of party.
But the major thing that everyone must keep in mind is that because everyone gets rejected, it really isn’t that big a deal. The hottest of the hottest super-duper model, at some point in their life, will feel the icy touch of rejection (maybe at a pie-eating competition, to all of you out there you refused to think that this is true). And if the beautiful in the world have felt rejection, then the rest of the normal looking people out there should really feel bad when it happens. Sure, feel disappointed because of the act of putting yourself out there, only to not have a date at the end of the conversation, but other then that, no harm no foul.
And the even better part is that the more you except rejection as the norm, you begin to create a shield for it. You ask out a person, they say ‘No’. you smile and say ‘No biggie’. To someone who has never asked someone out, this sounds crazy, but it is true.
Rejection is out there and there isn’t anything anyone can really do about it. But the sooner you become numb to being said no too, the quicker you can find that person you is going to say ‘Yes”.
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